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How Do I Get A Girl To Like Me?

Here is my latest video – “How Do I Get A Girl To Like Me?”

This is a question that I am asked often, or more – “Chris, how do I get THIS girl to like me?” And when I hear that, I get worried. I get worried because most often the guy has forgotten about the bigger picture, and is blindly obsessed with one woman who may not like him, or who may not even know that he exists.

You cannot trick a girl into liking you, but what you can do is focus on your own growth and development, and become awesome – for YOU as much as for women.

Here I outline 3 things that I recommend when people ask me this. They are not popular pieces of advice because they are not tricks, but they are 100% true.

Are lavish dates are the way to get the girls?

It’s the age-old topic of argument – spending your dough on the ladies in exchange for (or in hopes of) getting some action. Of course, there is some validity to it – women are naturally attracted to security and resources as much as men are naturally attracted to perky boobs and tanned legs. But are lavish dates and shelling out the coin truly the best way the get the best ladies?

What does flaunting money get you?

For one, it gets you attention, no doubt about it. For two, it gets you followers. Let’s face it – people are attracted to shiny shit, and they will happily ride the money train as long as the doors are open. If a 4’ tall witchy-looking lass hit me up with “Yo sexy, wanna come on an all expenses paid, champagne flowing, trip to Italy?” – I’d say yes. But would I fuck the midget? No. No I would not. Would I even follow up and see her again? Yeah nah.

Given, that’s a weird hypothetical, but it explains an important point – don’t mix up attention with attraction. Read more

Confidence vs. Arrogance

It’s a fine line – at what point does one’s confidence become arrogance. Let’s explore.

The first thing to note is that confidence is hugely overrated when it comes to meeting women. In fact, so much weight placed on confidence, I believe, can be a dangerous thing for a man’s growth. See, we tent to just assume that people are – or are not – confident; and then that is their fate – giving them either a golden ticket to ride the ‘success with ladies’ train … or the perfect excuse to not even try – “I’m just not that confident”

What is arguably more attractive than a confident man is a man who is able to muster up the balls to take action, to grab life by the nads and to just have a crack, even though he is shitting himself. The latter is certainly a lot more real and a lot more endearing to a lot of ladies. Read more

Top 5 Reasons Why Most Men Don’t Have Dating Abundance

I was recently asked to contribute to Michael Fiore’s Digital Romance. In it I discuss the top 5 simple reasons why most men don’t have, or ever obtain, dating freedom. You can check it the original by clicking here.

“Dating abundance” – what does it mean?

For a man, it means having the ability to meet and date the woman (or women) that he WANTS to date. It means being with her (or them) because he WANTS to, not because he could do no better or because that was his only option. Read more

Getting my Ex Girlfriend Back

Question“So for the last three days my ex and I have been casually talking, we were together for over two years. The thing I’m asking is if she meets up with me do I regame her or just act normal? Or even how do I get back with her?”

Answer – Weird I know coming from a bloody pick-up coach, but personally I hate the term to “game” someone. Immediately it makes me think of the inner issues at play – self-esteem, self-value, etc. Read more

Meeting Women During The Day

One of the biggest myths in the dating world is that you need to go out to bars or clubs to meet women. You obviously, definitely, can meet women this way, it’s the timeless classic – going out to pick up! – but it’s not your only option. And no I’m not talking about online dating, I’m talking about meeting women during the day.

But where!?

Today, or tomorrow, when you leave the house, just do one thing. Simply, look up. Pay attention to what is around you. Watch who walks past you on the street, look at more in the stores than the items for sale, lift your head from the newspaper on the train platform, get out of the office on your lunch break – just look around. You will notice something – yep, women are everywhere! And let me tell you one thing – every one of them that is single, is very likely in the same boat as you – really wanting to meet someone, but struggling to find the time, opportunity or ability to do so. Read more

Dating in the Workplace

Well, it’s Christmas. And Christmas brings many things, among them – Christmas office parties. Excitement swirls, the rumour-mill charges up, serotonin flows just as much as the alcohol. Holiday-anticipating spirits are up! And so is your interest in Betty from accounting.

I’m asked ALL the time what I think of hooking up with people in the workplace. Personally, I’m all for it. And given that studies show that one in ten people meet their spouse at work (and they’re just the ones that last), obviously I’m not alone. Read more